If you want to live long—and stay present for the people who matter most—you need to pay attention to the risk factors that lead to the number one cause of death among fathers: heart disease.

Your lifestyle can have a significant impact on your fertility and the health and wellness of your baby to be. There are dozens of things you can do before a positive test. From healthy habits to communication and planning, what you do now can shape fertility, pregnancy, and the kind of parent you become. Before you start trying, here are five thoughtful steps worth taking. This is just a draft blog to get a sense of how it will look.