When most of us hear the word legacy, we think about the end of life, what we leave behind, and how we will be remembered. But legacy isn’t something you create later, it is something you’re building quietly every ordinary day. For fathers, legacy often shows up less in big achievements and more in patterns: how you show up when you’re tired, how you repair after mistakes, how you take care of yourself while taking care of others.

When it comes to our health, every father asks for help eventually. The real question is when. Some men seek help early—motivated by a desire to optimize their mental performance, strengthen relationships, and function at their best. Others delay until health problems become overwhelming, when suffering is intense or daily life is no longer manageable. Most fathers fall somewhere in between. Where we land on that spectrum matters.

It is important to have other dads in your life, men who can relate to your experiences, get you out of the house and show up if needed. It is particularly difficult to connect with other expectant or new fathers.