When it comes to our health, every father asks for help eventually. The real question is when. Some men seek help early—motivated by a desire to optimize their mental performance, strengthen relationships, and function at their best. Others delay until health problems become overwhelming, when suffering is intense or daily life is no longer manageable. Most fathers fall somewhere in between. Where we land on that spectrum matters.

It is important to have other dads in your life, men who can relate to your experiences, get you out of the house and show up if needed. It is particularly difficult to connect with other expectant or new fathers.